I’ve Lived in Italy 15+ Years — Here Are 10 Unspoken Rules to Follow When You Visit

Visiting Italy is a dream for many travelers, but if you want to experience the country like a local, you need to be aware of some unspoken rules that govern daily life. After living in Italy for over 15 years, I’ve learned that small cultural nuances can make a big difference in how you’re perceived and how much you enjoy your trip. Here are ten essential Italian customs and etiquette tips to follow.

1. Don’t Order a Cappuccino After 11 AM

In Italy, cappuccino is considered a morning-only drink. Ordering one after lunch or dinner will immediately mark you as a tourist. Locals opt for an espresso or macchiato later in the day.

2. Respect the Siesta Hours

Many businesses, especially in smaller towns, close between 1 PM and 4 PM for riposo (the Italian siesta). Plan accordingly, as restaurants and shops may not reopen until the evening.

3. Dress Appropriately When Visiting Churches

If you’re visiting cathedrals or historic churches, ensure your shoulders and knees are covered. Many religious sites enforce strict dress codes, and you may be denied entry if you don’t comply.

4. Avoid Over-Tipping

Unlike in the U.S., tipping in Italy is not obligatory. A small service charge (coperto) is often included in your bill. If you receive excellent service, rounding up the bill or leaving a few extra euros is appreciated but not expected.

5. Always Validate Your Train Ticket

When traveling by train, especially on regional routes, you must validate your paper ticket in the yellow machines before boarding. Failure to do so may result in a fine, even if you have a valid ticket.

6. Learn Basic Italian Phrases

While many Italians speak English, knowing a few Italian phrases like “Grazie” (thank you) and “Per favore” (please) goes a long way in making a good impression.

7. Don’t Ask for Variations on Traditional Dishes

Italians take their food culture seriously. Asking for chicken on pasta or requesting extra cheese on seafood dishes might earn you some disapproving looks. Trust the chef and enjoy the meal as it’s traditionally prepared.

8. Walk on the Right and Keep a Steady Pace

Sidewalks in major cities like Rome and Florence can be crowded. Walk on the right side and avoid stopping suddenly, especially in busy areas.

9. Greet with a Kiss on Both Cheeks

In social settings, Italians greet friends and acquaintances with two cheek kisses. A handshake is more common in formal situations, but knowing the local greeting customs helps you blend in.

10. Don’t Rush Through Meals

In Italy, meals are meant to be enjoyed at a leisurely pace. Rushing through dinner or asking for the check too quickly may come off as rude. Savor the experience and embrace the Italian way of dining.

By following these unspoken rules, you’ll show respect for Italian culture and make the most of your travel experience. Embrace the local way of life, and you’ll have a much richer and more enjoyable visit to Italy!